Every Tuesday we engage in one big question, topic or idea. You are invited to write in with a suggestion you want to share. I surely do not have all the answers but know that together we can generate some great conversation and have fun in the process. (Feel free to post your topics, questions, and your great thoughts in the comments below!) Together, we will stay informed and equipped about topics that matter!
Today’s Blog Contributor:
Kristin is a licensed counselor who is passionate about seeing women find freedom, healing and restoration in their own lives. She is a writer, counselor, speaker, teacher, mentor and leader to women. She is a storyteller and uses allegorical examples to impart life, freedom, and healing to many. She speaks on a variety of topics including teachings from her writing “Healing for Our Soul Garden”, which is about the restoration and healing process from sexual abuse; as well as leading and teaching women to grow in a deeper relationship with God. She is available to share according to your needs at your focused retreat, conference or workshop. Find out more about Kristin on her blog atwww.healingforoursoulgarden.com.
The Process of Walking Out Change
When we begin to walk out change or something new, it’s not always a comfortable process. In fact, quite often, it’s an uncomfortable process and season in our life. As I’ve learned to navigate this life of change and those seasons of more abundant change (which I’m in the middle of right now), it has come to my mind that I’m not the only one who is dealing with the process of learning to embrace change.
There are two sides to change. The “change” itself we are going through; which speaks of the specifics, the events that are taking place, which for each of us are different. Then there is the second side, which I would like to address today, the process of walking out the change in our lives.
How do we do this?
How do we navigate this?
How do we embrace this?
As we walk out the process of change our equilibrium can become unbalanced, off, and unfamiliar. We find ourselves bumping into things, feeling distorted or confused in our thought process, uncertain of our faith or relationship with Christ, doubting we know ourselves, loss of dreams, and having thoughts of confusion about our identity. These are all aspects of change. These are all normal in the the stage of us re-establishing our equilibrium.
When we are moving towards something new, we have yet to experience, we are walking on a pathway we have not experienced before. Imagine you are walking on a tightrope, high above the ground of familiarity, life as you knew it before. You notice your footing feels different underneath you. It’s not what you’ve felt or known before. In fact, it doesn’t feel like a sure footing such as a dirt pathway or road would feel. It feels shaky, unsure, small, and it causes everything within you to feel off balanced. Below, far below, is the old path which is familiar, but the old path is not one you can journey on today. It was a pathway for yesterday and today God has led you to a new pathway, which yes, is scary, unfamiliar, and unpredictable.
Have you felt that way before? I have. To be honest that is where I am right now.
New change can also take all time and energy from us. Our focus becomes sideways, and unbalanced because what we are experiencing leads us to be pulled in one specific direction, this new change. We have difficulty focusing on anything outside of it. It demands our attention and we quickly respond because we are grappling to embrace it.
Occasionally, I sit and watch Syfy movies with my husband, and numerous times we will find ourselves watching a scene with a time warp in space that begins to pull everything within it’s reach to it. The spaceship is often going in circles, with the crew doing their best to save everyone on the ship, and the ship itself, from being pulled into the time warp and possible sudden death. That is how it often feels when your equilibrium is off. As if the life you knew is
completely changing and you are being pulled into a unknown; a time warp of uncertainty which feels like sudden death in many ways.
Our strength comes from our core, our center. It is at this point, panic may set in, fear of the unknown, and we lose our focus on our center, which is Jesus. In ballet we learn our core, our center, is where all our strength comes from. Our arms and our legs can move in greater depth when our core, our center, and our strength, is being used. We must remember to keep our focus on Jesus, in spite of the change we are experiencing in our lives. He is our strength. His Word is our daily nourishment. As we spend time in His presence in prayer and worship daily, we find peace, hope, and direction for our lives.
In Psalms 18:32-34 we read, “God arms me with strength and makes my way perfect. He makes my feet like those of a deer and gives me sure footing on high places. He trains my hands for battle so that my arms can bend an (archer’s) bow of bronze.”
Let’s go back to the image of walking on a tightrope. As time goes by, and yes time is the key to understanding this season, the rope beneath our feet begins to grow. It begins to grow in depth and width, and slowly over time, our footing becomes more sure and solid underneath us. With each step, with each day, the tight rope begins to grow to a pathway and there begins to be a sure footing underneath each of us.
As you walk through this season, remember:
- Our equilibrium will be off while we learn to adjust to the new change in our lives.
- Give yourself time to adjust to the change.
- Change can deplete our energy, time, and focus.
- Never lose site of your core, your center, which is Jesus.
- Time is the key to walking through the process of change.
We would love to hear your thoughts on “The Process of Walking Out Change”, please don’t hesitate to share your stories or comments below.
If you found this blog helpful or encouraging, it would be the greatest complement to today’s blog contributor if you shared this blog on your social networks. Thank you for helping build our HER VOICE community – Strengthening and Developing Empowered Leaders and Churches.