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Today’s Blog Contributor: 

Cyndi Pollard


Cyndi’s success has crossed boundaries from education to ministry to customer service to corporate America. She has spent over twenty years speaking to, and encouraging groups that range in size from 10 to 1500. Having been the keynote speaker for Women’s Retreats, Conferences, the Future Business Leaders of America, and acted as the Master of Ceremony, she is poised to share her message of Hope and Courage with your group. Cyndi wrote and presented a customer service segment, “Stepping Outside the Box,” that has been published and used in a well-known company to teach individuals how to move from, “How I have always done it,” to “doing it a different way.”

Cyndi Pollard graduated from LIFE Pacific College with a BA in Ministry Leadership, is an ordained minister that speaks on a regular basis at her local church where she serves  as the Director of Women’s Ministry. Currently she is writing her first book, “Defining Moments” that explores the moment after a significant even in your life has occurred. Her friends, coworkers, and family would describe her as a servant leader who inspires everyone around her to live a courageous life. She lives in Southwest Washington with her husband Dennis, and two cats, Rocky & Dude and has a daughter in the US Navy.

Just when you think love is dead………

Jesus cried out in a loud voice “LIVE! And that which was dead, lived.”

Many times we think the love that we once believed indestructible, has died, and we can’t imagine what can change that. The enemies footprint is seen in the disappointment, devastation, and unplanned events that he uses to destroy our relationships.

Ahhhh, but there is hope!

Let’s look at the story of Lazarus!

Dead to LifeJohn 11 – Jesus was out of town when he received a message from Mary & Martha telling him that his friend Lazarus was sick. By the time Jesus arrived in Lazarus’ home town, Lazarus had died and his sisters said, “Lord, if only you had been here, my brother would not have died.” Jesus found out where Lazarus was and wept.

The girls told him, “Lord, he has been dead for four days. The smell will be terrible.” But Jesus told them, “You will see God’s glory if you believe?” After the stone was rolled away, Jesus looked up to heaven and said, “Father, thank you for hearing me, then shouted, “Lazarus, come out!” And he did, his hands and feet bound in grave clothes, his face wrapped in a head cloth.

Jesus told them, “Unwrap him and let him go!”

Believe with me for a moment that Jesus can do anything, even in our marriages? And that when He does, we will see God’s glory?

Surely if Jesus could raise Lazarus from the dead, He can bring life to our marriages.

How do we get there? Have you ever heard the song, ‘Love stinks?’ Even when it does, simply:

  • Admit that there is stench coming from our marriage
    • “Lord, he has been dead for four days. The smell is terrible.”
  • Don’t give up
    • “You will see God’s glory if you believe?”
  • Be willing to get rid of the bondage and blinders in our marriage
    • “And the dead man came out, his hands and feet bound in grave clothes, his face wrapped in a head cloth.”
  • Forgive
    • Life cannot come without forgiveness
      • Forgiveness is a choice
      • To forgive is to give up my right to hurt you, for hurting me
    • What to do if you are the only one believing for the miracle?
      • Don’t give up!
      • Jesus said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 10:26
      • And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

Some of you are thinking, “She has no idea what she is talking about, she does not know ….fill in your own blank.

But I might, and if I don’t, Jesus does, and He is “the healer, the broken heart fixer, the miracle worker, and the creator of marriage! We just have to let him have this! Ugh! That’s hard, as sometimes we think we know how to fix our spouse better than Him. (Just a thought, maybe it’s us that needs to be fixed).

If you don’t know Jesus, you can! He tells us, “I am the resurrection, and the life. He that believes in me, though he were dead, shall live.” John 11:25

This would be a great beginning to new life in your marriage!


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