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Today’s Blog Contributor: 

Jen Ervig

Jen ErvigIn Northwest Washington born and raised. On the church pew’s where I spent most of my days. Chillin out, maxin, relaxin all cool. Singin’, and actin’ or playin’ da fool, when a couple of guys who’re no good for me, ended up being bad company. One tragically ended relationship and my mom got anxious said, “you’re moving with your auntie and uncle in Phoenix”. I called to the Lord and He came near with talent and purpose that brought me here. I was told I have gifts that need to be used. I thought man, “ha! well, I’m here to amuse!” I went through Global University and got my credential Now, I’m just working to fulfill my potential.


Relationships Take Three

The Concept of Three

When I got married, one gift I received from a dear lady in our church was a beautifully framed poem, titled “Marriage Takes Three”. It went like this,

I once thought marriage took
Just two to make a go,
But now I am convinced
It takes the Lord also.

And not one marriage fails
Where Christ is asked to enter,
As lovers come together
With Jesus at the center.

But marriage seldom thrives,
And homes are incomplete,
Till He is welcome there
To help avoid defeat.

In homes where Christ is first
It’s obvious to see,
Those unions really work,
For marriage still takes three.
By: Perry Tanksley

I love this poem; and I think it’s so true….not just for marriage, but for all relationships. It holds true for friendships, parent/child relationships, work relationships…all relationships.

three strandsThe Rule of Three

Then today, I was reminded of the poem again when scrolling Facebook as I came across this post of wisdom from a young gal, Ashlee, in our church (you’ll see I inserted the word relationship for my own purposes):

“When we put our relationship with Jesus as our number one priority, every other situation/relationship falls under His direction, His strength, and His authority. “
If He is our number one thought, passion, and hope, then His power will direct our lives and relationships. His Grace will abound and His strength will pick us up. “I am the Lord, and there is no other” Isaiah 45:5

Do you see the patterns of three that I do? ” HIS direction, HIS strength, HIS authority…” and “… our number one thought, passion, and hope…” If we do as the poem says and put ” Jesus at the center”, making Him as Ashlee says, “our number one priority”, we and our relationships fall under His blessed rules of three (direction, strength, authority) because we give Him our top three best in (thought, passion and hope).

The Three Day Rule

There’s another rule of three when it comes to relationships of any kind. The Three Day Rule. This rule provides that you take three days to pray, think and reflect before making any major decisions regarding a relationship and before having any serious discussions that could be sensitive to a relationship. IT IS A LIFE SAVINGAND RELATIONSHIP SAVING RULE OF SAVING GRACE! This Three Day Rule gives you time to give God all your thought, passion and hope in any given situation so that you can acquire His directions, strength and authority.

Thinking of breaking up with a boyfriend? Three Day Rule. Thinking of marrying him? Three Day Rule(unless you’ve been taking more like three months or three years! haha) Have to have a heart to heart with a co worker who’s stepping on your toes? Three Day Rule. Have to dole out some tough love to a friend? Three Day Rule. TRUST ME.

There’s a Latin phrase, “omne trium perfectum” which dictates that everything that comes in threes is perfect, or, every set of three is complete. There’s also a little God breathed phrase in Ecclesiastes, useful for teaching, training and correcting, that pretty well compliments the Latin one, “a strand of three cords is not easily broken” -2 Timothy 3:16; Ecclesiastes 4:12. So, use the Three Day Rule today to consider the Rule of Three because Relationships take three.


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