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Today’s Blog Contributor: 

Kristin Clouse

Kristin ClouseKristin is a licensed counselor who is passionate about seeing women find freedom, healing and restoration in their own lives. She is a writer, counselor, speaker, teacher, mentor and leader to women. She is a storyteller and uses allegorical examples to impart life, freedom, and healing to many. She speaks on a variety of topics including teachings from her writing Healing for Our Soul Garden, which is about the restoration and healing process from sexual abuse; as well as leading and teaching women to grow in a deeper relationship with God. She is available to share according to your needs at your focused retreat, conference or workshop. Find out more about Kristin on her blog atwww.healingforoursoulgarden.com.


Each day as I drove to and from work on a two lane highway, I witnessed the construction of a new bridge being built. For nine months this beautiful new structure was developing right before my eyes. As the end of this building process was winding down, it was then God began to reveal to me how the new and the old bridge were much like relationships, marriages, and there are lessons to learn from observing this process over time.

The core of the message He spoke to my heart was simple, but yet profound. It was a small message with only two words, but those two words are what I have chosen to meditate on daily for the past year.

Love wins.

When our focus is on love, Christ, love wins in all relationships. Regardless of what you have experienced in the past or are currently facing, love wins.

In 1 Peter 4:8 (Amp) we read, “Above all things have intense and unfailing love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins (forgives and disregards the offenses of others).

love winsWhere you focus makes all the difference.

For a majority of the nine months it took to build this new bridge the workers were focused on the new one and not on fixing the old one. In fact, the old bridge continued to serve it’s purpose it was created for, a means to an end, to get us from one side of the river to the other safely. Although they blocked one of the two lanes, we continued to travel on it everyday. The workers did not put there attention on what could be fixed on the old bridge, instead all of their energy was on building the new one.

Where is your focus?

Are you focusing on what is broken, on what isn’t working anymore?

Or are you focusing on rebuilding your relationship?

In every relationship there are past hurts, mistakes, difficulties, sins, and situations that all involved wish they could change. Sadly, we focus on the past instead of moving forward into the new things that God has for our marriage or relationships with others. Now I’m not referring to denial or ignoring these things, but often we have spent years focusing on past hurts and are unable to see others beyond those hurts. It’s then we label others and our relationships by those past hurts and we can’t move forward.

In Isaiah 43:19 (NKJV) God reminds us, “Behold, I will do a new thing. Now it shall spring forth; shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.”

Building the new bridge.

Love focuses on the new and not on the old. God is doing a new thing in your life, your family, your marriage, your friendship, your work and so much more. Love builds up. Build up your spouse and loved ones. Build up yourself. God tells us that in the middle of our wilderness He builds roads for us to travel on. When we will feel dry and stagnate, He provides rivers of life.

Do you see them in your life?

I do.

God has provided a road for me to travel and His water of life to sustain me through this journey. He has not forsaken me and He has not forsaken you. He is right here with us, helping us.

In Deuteronomy 31:8 (NLT) we are reminded, “Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the LORD will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; He will neither fail you nor abandon you.”

Letting Go of the Old

At the end of the building process the work crew turned their focus and attention on the old bridge. Five semi-trucks were brought in carrying different sections of a huge crane which was used for the finale of this amazing project. What took many months to build was quickly destroyed within one day.

The crane reminded me of the stuffed animal game where once you put your money in, you then try to maneuver the arm of the crane to pick up the exact stuffed animal toy you dreamed of winning. What amazed me the most was the power and strength of the crane to destroy complete beams of steel which had been used to hold the bridge together. They laid in a pile on the side of the river, twisted, broken, and unusable. The old bridge could not be put back together once the crane completed it’s job.

With tears running down my cheeks, God spoke so clearly to my heart, that when He builds something new, He destroys the old so that we never go back to it. God does a complete work in us, our marriages, our families, and our relationships. By the time the work had been completed, there was no sign of the old, falling down, bridge. In it’s place was beauty, plants, life, and peace.

God’s promise to us today is simple, yet profound. Do you hear Him whispering it into your ear right now?

Love Wins.

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