By Jen Ervig

Never trust your friends?! What on earth does that mean? It means don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket UNLESS…that one basket is God. Don’t put all your eggs or trust in one basket that is not God.

According to goodenglish.org, it’s a piece of advice that means you shouldn’t concentrate all your efforts in one area as you could lose everything. When considering relationships, I would amend the definition to “you shouldn’t place all your trust in humans, because they’re fallible (they’re not God) and you can come out big on the losing end”. Humans will misunderstand you. Humans will occasionally be selfish and abuse you.

The bible says in (Mark 12:30) that “you shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment.” All your trust should lie in Him.  In every relationship that we have with other people, our relationship with God must always be our top priority. Jesus says in (Matthew 10:37) “He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. We are also told in (Exodus 20:3) not to “have any other gods/idols before Him”.

When we trust our friends before or instead of God, we make idols of them. When our friendships become more important than waiting on and spending time with God, we make idols of them. When we care more about what our friends think of us, than what God thinks of us, we make idols of them. When we work to please our friends with our life choices rather than God, we make idols of them….and we are no longer worthy of God.

Not only that, but when we make friendships that important, we tend to believe we can trust them with anything, that they would never hurt us, and inevitably, we are crushed and left reeling. It does not mean that your friends are bad people and not to be trusted. It means that your friends are human (just as you are) and although can be trusted with many things, they can also be trusted to eventually let you down whether intentionally or unintentionally because they’re simply not God.

stabilityAre friends letting you down? Do you feel you can’t trust anybody? Is your heart too fragile lately? Then repent. Tell God you’re sorry; and if needed, tell your friends you’re sorry.

Then, remember every situation that we come into, especially if it’s with other people, we should come into in Jesus’ name because He says (Matthew 18:20) “where two or more are gathered in my name, there I am with them”. Relationships only fall apart when one person (or both) loses sight of Jesus and becomes selfish, looking for their needs to be met in the other person. Only Jesus can be the true source of our peace, love and joy..

When you make God the middle of everything, you can never be too let down to the point you find yourself reeling, because you know where your source of peace, love and joy come from. Your stability is in the one you can always trust.

Remember, Relationships Take Three. Make God the center of all your relationships today. Let Him love you unconditionally and be the source of all your trust and hope so that your relationships glorify Him. This protects you and your friends. This keeps you in line with His commandments. Trust me. 🙂


Jen Ervig

In Northwest Washington born and raised. On the church pew’s where I spent most of my days. Chillin out, maxin, relaxin all cool. Singin’, and actin’ or playin’ da fool, when a couple of guys who’re no good for me, ended up being bad company. One tragically ended relationship and my mom got anxious said, “you’re moving with your auntie and uncle in Phoenix”. I called to the Lord and He came near with talent and purpose that brought me here. I was told I have gifts that need to be used. I thought man, “ha! well, I’m here to amuse!” I went through Global University and got my credential Now, I’m just working to fulfill my potential.


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