By Angela Howard

Im-Not-OkayCan I be 100% honest with you? There are days when I’m not okay. In fact there are days when I’m sad, angry or downright miserable. I’ve had quite a few of those days lately, and I’ve noticed that sometimes people are uncomfortable with my “not okay-ness.” Has this ever happened to you?

My sweet friends and family want to fix me and move me on my way out of this uneasy territory. I appreciate their love and encouragement. In fact, I’ve benefited greatly from their wise advice. But sometimes this urgency to solve and sooth can leave us avoiding the real issues that have brought us to this crisis in the first place.

I have also been guilty of hurrying my hurting friends through their sorrow, failing to allow them time to walk the path toward healing. I’d like to change that and simply give the gift of presence to my friends. It’s vital for all of us to recognize that at times we need to make our way along different trails that will lead to wholeness and a renewed faith in our Savior.

If you or a friend is facing a season where you are “not okay” you might need to consider the following:


Do you need to grieve a loss or a failure?

“…weep with those who weep.” Romans 12:15 (ESV)

“For everything there is a season…a time to weep…a time to mourn…” Ecclesiastes 3:1,4 (ESV)

Process Trauma

Do you need to walk through a previous trauma with a trusted counselor?

“Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” Proverbs 11:14 (ESV)

Pray for Healing

Do you need healing emotionally, physically, or spiritually? I encourage you to consider healing prayer. (See this video training on prayer)

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3 (ESV)

Regain Hope & Strength

Have you lost your hope and strength?

“And now, dear brothers and sisters, we want you to know what will happen to the believers who have died so you will not grieve like people who have no hope.” 1 Thessalonians 4:13 (NLT)

“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.” Isaiah 40:29 (NIV)

Rushing through uncomfortable feelings so that we can appear to be “okay” will only lead us back to the place we are trying to avoid. Take a deep breath and take this season one step at a time. The Lord is with you—you are not alone!

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18 (ESV)


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angelahoward2014-0017Angela Howard is an author and minister who loves empowering people with authentic encouragement and Biblical perspective for their imperfect lives. Her book: How to Love Your Crazy Family is on amazon and you can connect with her on her blog at