By Jen Ervig

It occurred to me that often we seasoned Christians criticize, chastise and basically judge the actions of those still young in Christ sometimes and I wonder if Christ looks at the same things we see and instead, smiles… I know. Incredulous, right? Don’t get me wrong. I’m not talking about sin. I’m talking about the actions that to us “older” Christians seem immature. The things that make our eyes go wide, followed by a slight roll, or cause us to puff up our chests with a “humph”. You know, the things that bring out our index finger in it’s best “tisk tisk” fashion.

ChildrenThe incident that made me wander to this wondering was an interaction with my five year old yesterday. He caught wind that if he worked hard at his chores and cleaned his room, a monetary or otherwise material surprise was to be had. He worked so hard even to the point of making his brother’s bed and cleaning his brother’s room! It was so evident that his main goal was simply to be rewarded in a materialistic way BUT, as his parent, I didn’t look down on him in judgement and disgust but I found my self smiling.

Many times in life we compare the love of God the father to a worldly father.

Yes, my son is five. And, yes, clearly his motivation was to see what he could get….so completely immature. HOWEVER, my perspective as his parent was quite different. I saw a little boy that after EVERY CHORE, made sure to see that I had been watching or else he would proudly report what he had just accomplished. He did this with eyes beaming and shoulders tall and proud. Yes, all in anticipation of what he could possibly get. BUT, as his parent I also realized this…He knows that I love him and what ever reward I have in store is going to be a good one, EVEN IF HE DOESN’T EXACTLY KNOW WHAT IT WILL BE. And clearly, he was also excited to make me proud…proud enough to want to reward him. So, no. I didn’t think, “good grief. He’s just doing this for the reward.” As his parent who knows he’s young and immature yet making progress in the right direction, my heart was warmed and I DID smile. I was touched that he wanted to make me happy and that he trusted and BELIEVED that indeed, I would do what I said and reward him.

And there it is folks, what most see as immaturity may simply be childlike faith and anticipation in what the father has for them. Young christians don’t know what’s ahead of them and they may be in it for what they’re gonna get, BUT it’s because they KNOW that whatever they’re gonna get comes from a loving and gracious God that has nothing but good things for them! It’s the right of a youngin’ to love and trust their father with all love and abandon. Then with maturity, will come service with true sacrifice, but in the mean time, at least they’re servin’! So, as elders in Christ, let’s just smile at that.

I don’t know about all this, but I sure do wonder…AND I smile….because MY son KNOWS I give good things when he does what I ask.


And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 18:3

Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” Matthew 19:14

People were bringing little children to Jesus for him to place his hands on them, but the disciples rebuked them. When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” And he took the children in his arms, placed his hands on them and blessed them. Mark 10:13-16

And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. Hebrews 11:6

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces. “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Matthew 7:1-9


Jen Ervig

In Northwest Washington born and raised. On the church pew’s where I spent most of my days. Chillin out, maxin, relaxin all cool. Singin’, and actin’ or playin’ da fool, when a couple of guys who’re no good for me, ended up being bad company. One tragically ended relationship and my mom got anxious said, “you’re moving with your auntie and uncle in Phoenix”. I called to the Lord and He came near with talent and purpose that brought me here. I was told I have gifts that need to be used. I thought man, “ha! well, I’m here to amuse!” I went through Global University and got my credential Now, I’m just working to fulfill my potential.


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