By Julie Anderson

I love the holidays. I really love the magic of Christmas especially through the eyes of a child…especially through the eyes of my children. It has always been fun to play into and “feed” the belief in Santa, the belief in something that we can’t see. Children are a wonderful example of faith.

All of that said, I “ruined” Santa for my children. A couple years ago my young children asked some questions about why Santa’s giving habits had changed for them. Did Santa like them less? Was Santa not reading his mail? How come Santa brought more gifts to other kids? And then last year as my children were another year older and starting to put the pieces together beyond themselves, they started asking why some kids don’t get presents from Santa at all and others get so many.

I made an executive decision. Christmas is not about Santa. Christmas is not about how much you can buy your child. Christmas is about Christ. I decided it was time my children learn that Santa is not real but Jesus is. Even though you cannot see Jesus, he loves you and he loves every other kid just as much as he loves you. On the days when kids at school are being mean and you feel sad, Jesus is still with you. I wanted them to know that no matter what they did, good or bad, that Jesus is someone that they can believe in who is for them and loves them…all the time.

I don’t feel bad about “ruining” Santa. I actually think it is one of the better parenting moves I’ve made. This year, my children understand that Christmas is about giving and not getting (don’t get me wrong, they all have wish lists they hope will get filled). They don’t expect a huge pile of presents under the tree and they are much more receptive to experiences and to learning what Christmas is really about.

This Christmas, we are celebrating Advent as a family. Not like a calendar where you open the little doors and eat a little chocolate for 24 days. Every day is a reading and teaching and discussion. We are trying to slow down! We are learning to be more patient and believing God’s promises for us.

Christmas is so much more than a day to receive gifts…Christmas is a day to remember Christ.

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Julie AndersonI am a life coach with a focus and passion for fitness and nutrition, 40 years old and full time mama to 4 amazing kids (twins age 9, 12 and 19). I’ve been in the fitness industry since 1995 as a group instructor and personal trainer. After my twins were born in 2006 I got into competitive bodybuilding (figure category) for 6 years which led me to my passion for nutrition. After years of competing, I decided to hang up the suit and seek a life of balance and moderation and am passionate about helping others do the same as that’s really what being healthy is all about. I am a domestic violence and child abuse survivor and advocate and am passionate about giving hope and helping other parents protect their children and navigate our broken system.

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