By Angela Craig
When I was in my 20’s and looking for a spouse, I thought, “If I find the right person, life will be perfect and we will live happily ever after.” But the truth is, no matter how well you are matched to your spouse, no matter how many values, dreams, and hopes you have in common, marriage is the hardest challenge you will ever face. There is NO ONE COUPLE who goes through married life that doesn’t need help navigating the waters of love and communication at some point or maybe, many. If you think you know a couple or will be couple that will be trouble free, you are pulling the wool over your eyes.
The book, Love & War: Finding Your Way to Something Beautiful in Your Marriage is possible the best book I have read on marriage. Written by the best-selling authors John and Stasi Eldredge, you will be challenged to see your marriage, your role, and your spouse differently. It is different than any other marriage book I have read. It is a book about heart and about returning passion, adventure, and purpose to your marriage. In the end, you will walk away from this read (or Bible study) with a new vision and hope for the most important human relationship you hold. Happily ever after, really is possible with your prayer, dedication, and hard work.
Here is a passage from the book that gives a great overview of Love & War.
Being married costs everything. Tears… Incredible vulnerability and sacrifice. It causes you to take a deeper look inside your heart and soul, your desires and your personality… It is not easy. But that does not come as a surprise to you. You already know that! Of course loving costs everything–look at the Cross. But loving is always worth it…We all know that loving in hard. Marriage is hard. It is hard because it is opposed. The devil hates marriage… But God loves marriage! He is for you… Marriage is going to ask everything of you, and that is why you must have a vision for it… We live in a great love story, set in the midst of war. We need each other–desperately. We have been entrusted with the heart of another human being. Our loving will prove to the world that love is real. We will play out before watching eyes the Great Love Story of the ages.
Here are a few more of my favorite quotes from, Love & War:
There is no greater place for damage (than marriage) because there is no greater place for glory.
You live in a world at war. Spiritual attack must be a category you think in or you will misunderstand more than half of what happens in your marriage.
There are two kinds of people in this world; the clueless and the repentant, those who are open to looking at their life, and those who are not, both that know they need God to change them, and those that expect EVERYONE else to change.
You will find it hard to hear from God until you let go your rights and your agenda.
Marriage is the sanctuary of the heart. You have been entrusted with the heart of another human being. Whatever else your life’s great mission will entail, loving and defending this heart next to you is part of your great quest.
Other Resources you should know about:
Love & War Bible Study DVD series
Wild at Heart for men
Captivating for women
I am a wife, a mom, a daughter, a friend, a writer, a minister, a coach, a social justice and non-profit junkie. Not necessarily always in that order. In my role as Director of the Women’s Department at the Northwest Ministry Network, I get to do what I like to do best: create, teach, write, and learn through others. I am also passionate about helping people discover and live out a passion and purpose filled life in my role as a certified Coach and President of the Give Good Awards Foundation. Devoted to helping others reach their fullest potential in life and leadership, Angela has authored two books, The Story of Leah: When life is not what you expected it to be and Pivot Leadership: Small Steps – Big Change (in stores July 14th). You can read her weekly blog encouragements and leadership tips on angelalcraig.com and on www.hervoiceblog.us, a blog specifically designed for women in leadership.
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